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Question #5: Are there any ways in which you feel observed, measured or compared?

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  1. Lynn Cox

    I feel observed, measured and compared most of the time. Having a guide dog means you stand out and your attitudes and actions towards others ends up representing visually impaired people as a whole. Saying that, it means I’m usually on my best behaviour!!!!

    Jun 02, 2010 @ 7:12 am

  2. Sue Rolfe

    Only when I come into contact with another human being.

    Jun 02, 2010 @ 10:28 am

  3. sue caro

    What an interesting question and yes is the answer to all 3 aspects! Constantly observed as a result of the UK’s CCTV culture, personally and professionally.
    Measured again something that is a constant in most relationships, be they personal or professional, do you fit, do you make the grade, are you as good as a colleague and so on. Compared – as a woman you are constantly compared to other women, by yourself and by others. It is important to remind yourself that we are surrounded (for those who can see) by images of women, many sexualised and nearly all of them airbrushed to perfection. It’s a bit like the Catholic Church’s approach to women, either a holy virgin or a total harlot, nothing inbetween!

    Jun 02, 2010 @ 11:21 am

  4. Emma Spurgin Hussey

    I feel measured in my work, by audiences-to-come and chiefly by myself. I compare myself with others who are ’successful’, especially younger people. I feel observed whenever I’ve tried to dance, even if no one’s looking…

    Jun 02, 2010 @ 5:54 pm

  5. Sue

    All the time! being an actress you are literally measured. Your height and weight is on your CV. Sad but true. The same goes for being compared. I don’t feel observed much. I am fairly good at being invisible when I want to be.

    Jun 02, 2010 @ 11:48 pm

  6. Caroline A

    Every action has an equal and opposite reaction has sprung to mind, I know this is about physics but in a world where there is any interaction it would seem natural that there should be a degree of observation, measurement and comparison as the reaction. Living without any of these things would be like living in a vacuum. However I suppose one of the real questions this kicks off is to the extent and intent of the observation and measurement. I don’t mind the birds in the garden checking me out as a friend or foe but I do mind endless CCTV recording my every action. I don’t mind people observing and measuring before they decide to start a conversation or looking at a piece of work, but I wouldn’t want to the full weight of the media observing and measuring my every action.

    Jun 04, 2010 @ 9:45 am

  7. AAA

    as a woman, i am often compared to other women, by others. i also sometimes compare myself to other women. but more often then not, i compare myself to other men : ) but i cannot measure up quite well, so i observe that it is an impossible task. if i feel observed, measured or compared the ways are as many as the people who observes, measures, compares…. and add my interpretation of it. one could develop self awareness as in ‘Uno, nessuno, centomila’ Pirandello: self scrutiny could go too far though…

    Jun 04, 2010 @ 10:38 pm

  8. Elizabeth

    I agree with the poster above. As a woman, you cannot escape being measured and compared all the time, to an impossible ideal. The worst thing is that people think they are paying you a complement when they discuss your looks, as if your physicality is any of their business in the first place.

    Jun 08, 2010 @ 10:52 am

  9. Kate

    Yes, constantly, by pretty much every person that lays eyes on me. On the Tube, walking along the street, I feel that, whilst not in an overtly thought out way, there are subtle judgements taking place in the people that look at you – you are being compared to other women, to wives, to the friend next to you, you are being measured against celebrity ideals and magazine covers. It may sound like a cliche, but I think that the sublimination of images we are constantly surrounded by filters into people’s perceptions of one another.

    Jun 08, 2010 @ 8:59 pm

  10. Theresa

    It is rare that I do not feel compared, measured and observed. At work, with family [concerned that I am okay], on the street, and where I live [in a block of 12 flats]. Freedom is such a fantastic feeling, it is a shame that our fears limit us like this.

    Jun 13, 2010 @ 10:30 pm


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